Communication ease you say?
“And when does that happen? There is not much communication ease around here Natalie”.
So here are what my clients and I have experienced.
SPEED. FAST. NOW.
Everything now is done fast with a compelling indication that is has to be fast to be good.
The rate at which we move through our lives indicates how we communicate and listen.
Are you preoccupied with your churning thoughts and never ending pressures to:
- Get it done
- Turn it in
- Find the answer
- Get back to them
- Fit it
- Text text text
- Clear up the email pile
It is hard to complete aspects of our lives when they never seem to stop…like texting or emails. Does anybody remember when they use to be fun? “Oh look, I got mail”.
Communication is dictated by the speed by which we respond to our lives. We are preoccupied. Our communication is clipped and incomplete. We end up with thoughts, incomplete sentences, and conversations that do not converse.
Add to that the frustrating habits of people interrupting. We interrupt. They interrupt. It is irritating, but we do it anyway.
How is that working for you??
We allow little time for thinking through answers – we tend to react which can be dangerous when communicating. Some of us actually need time to think about the question before we respond. In fact, we work well that way yet have found little space to support our thinking through information in order to complete our communication well.
40% of the population would work better; produce better; communicate more accurately, if you asked a question and then gave them time to answer it.
What? I need the information now!!!!!!!!!!!
Thorough, accurate and complete are not always going to be fast or immediate.
You might want to think about how you are communicating and supporting yourself in conversations with others.
There are some good rules for excellence in communication. Are you guilty of any of these:
- Not listening
- Body language that says “hurry up”
- Short reactive conversations and answers
- Disrespect with the other people when they are speaking
Put your device away for an hour a day. Think through your questions and give time for the answers. Think through your answers and add your special knowledge to the information rather than just communicating at the speed of sound “cause” that is the culture of our days.
When is it that you plan to take time to just stop and consider what else might work well in your communication world?
To your success,
P.S. Best new book out there on the way we are using technology – it is remarkable, valuable and eye opening. It is called Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked. It just came out March 7, 2017 by Adam Alter “One of the most mesmerizing and important books I’ve read in quite some time. Alter brilliantly illuminates the new obsessions that are controlling our lives and offers the tools we need to rescue our businesses, our families, and our sanity.” —Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take.
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